Relationship issues Counselling

As we explore together what has contributed to your low self-esteem (significant people in your life, past experiences, social influences, your personal expectations), we will also reflect on your values. We will begin to identify your response patterns that may or may not be helpful, and the ways you are with yourself in certain situations or with specific people. Your critic may be harsh or judgemental in tone, and may be playing a big role in making you feel bad about yourself. At the same time, there’s something in you that may be struggling and feeling alone – this is a side of you that is the recipient of your inner critic’s harshness and criticism. Both sides are there in you, creating an internal conflict that’s confusing and difficult to be with.

In our sessions together, you will come to know your self-critical side well. Perhaps it drives you to be a perfectionist, has you comparing yourself to others, or has you avoiding certain situations. All of these may leave you falling short-or feeling that you’re falling short-of personal or social expectations, i.e. feeling inadequate, substandard, or a failure. How you are with yourself contributes significantly to your self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-worth. Recognising and bringing awareness to your typical response patterns is an important step toward changing them. I will guide you to have an attitude of openness and friendliness as you get to know your self-critical side in a way that can bring about lasting change in the quality of your life and the quality of your relationships.

Cultivate self-awareness through mindfulness practices. Learn to observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment, allowing you to develop a greater understanding of your internal experiences. Mindfulness techniques can help you respond to self-esteem challenges with more clarity and self-compassion.

Explore and develop coping strategies to deal with situations that trigger low self-esteem. This may involve assertiveness training, setting healthy boundaries, practicing self-care, or engaging in activities that boost your self-confidence. I will guide you in identifying and implementing effective strategies tailored to your unique needs.

Engage in exercises aimed at enhancing your self-image and self-worth. This may include identifying and celebrating your strengths, setting achievable goals, and acknowledging your accomplishments. I will provide guidance and support as you work on nurturing a positive and realistic view of yourself.

As you make progress in therapy, work with the therapist to integrate the insights and skills gained into your daily life. Practice applying new coping strategies, challenging negative thoughts, and nurturing self-compassion. I may provide ongoing support and guidance to help you maintain and build upon your progress.

Recognise that self-esteem is an ongoing journey. Engage in self-care practices that prioritise your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Seek out supportive resources, such as books, podcasts, or support groups, that can provide continued inspiration and guidance on maintaining a healthy self-esteem.